Don't Live in a Pit of Despair

Have you ever feared being stuck with a total bitch roommate where there's NO escape? Do you, your parents, and your best friend want to chop your roommate's head off? If you are about to have that happen to you or you are in the process of dealing with that, here are my top 5 tips on how to survive the rest of your lease and not get stuck in this situation ever again in no particular order:
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1. Schools pressure you to resign your leases early. DO NOT accept any pressure from leasing companies to sign early. When you put your name on that paper, you are stuck for as long as the lease tells you. Subleasing are always an option, but those are a PAIN to find the right person that you don't even know. You DON'T want to regret your decisions later. If people sign in September, if you wait until November or even later, at least you know you made the right decision to find somewhere and someone you want to live with. That way, you won't only have your room, the library, the computer lab, and your friend's couches to live on...

2. Resolve any issues early. Talk to your roommate BEFORE you move in to make sure things are clear. If issues persist during the year, talk about them early and don't wait until you're stuck a second year with them and want to blow your brains out. Worst of all, don't wait until you're threatening your mom that you're going to never be there and start thinking of ways how you can turn your room into your only comfortable living space...Even more worse, don't wait until you need to get the leasing company involved, or even a civil lawyer. Ms. President of the computer nerd club doesn't want to be dealing a lawyer or going to court...

3. Not all people have common courtesy or respect, so don't assume ANYTHING. For example, make your needs and wants clear to them to make sure you don't get stuck with an extra, unwanted roommate. A two bedroom apartment means two people living there and no extra tenants. Don't settle for the fatass, freeloader boyfriend living there. Make sure the boyfriend doesn't have a copy of the key. If he does, tell the leasing company immediately. OR better yet, talk to the roommate about it. Otherwise, your room will be your best friend and you will be begging your friends for a couch or your boyfriend to let him take you in... their roommates won't be too happy.

4. Keep the place clean, but don't clean up after two slobs. If there's a mess, don't write a nasty note. Knock on the door and ask politely for them to clean it up. Then, the person will be like "Omg I'm so sorry" and be willing to clean up right away. At least if there's a residing issue, make sure you reach a civil agreement so you can at least walk in the apartment, say hi, watch TV, or do homework, without feeling like you're invading everyone else's space.

5. Never feel like someone is pressuring you to live with them. On top of leasing companies convincing you to sign as early as possible as they tell you everything will run out, your friends can't forge your signature on that lease. It's ultimately up to you how you make an apartment situation. If you have exhausted all your roommate options, go random, or better yet, pay the extra money to peacefully live alone. You can always invite your friends or boyfriend to stay over as often as you'd like. The best part of that is you'd never have to worry about accomodating for anyone else!

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Top 10 reasons why NOT to resign a lease with a royal bitch of a roommate (before you find out their true colors):

1. You will resort to your friend's couches, your room, the library, and the computer lab.

2. Your room will be your only living space while the rest of your apartment is "for them to explore"

3. You will catch yourself on many occasions referring to your expensive apartment as "theirs" and never invite ANYONE over (even your homework buddies)

4. You will constantly be bitching to your friends about it

5. You will be sorry later

6. You will have nowhere to cook and end up gaining 30 pounds in one semester due to not cooking healthy food and going to the gas station for unhealthy meals

7. You will barely feel comfortable walking into your own apartment after the library closes, let alone, without your football player, ex marine, nerd boyfriend (who you love oh so much)

8. You won't feel comfortable walking in your apartment in your PJs or bathrobe/towel and will always have to feel "fully ready" before leaving your room... or bathroom

9. You will be thinking of ways on how to make your room a living space, such as mirrors, plastic utensils, and microwaves (when the apartment already comes with one)

10. When that lease is up, you can happily GTFO and never have to see them again! You will be happy that you are stuck with them for only one year. Then you have the rest of your life to enjoy!

These are worst case scenarios. Don't let these happen to you!

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My best advice: Sign at your own risk and make sure you're 100% comfortable with signing a lease before you sign yourself into a sweet deal... for the other party! If you do, then just be optimistic, make the best of it, and it will be over before you know it!

Don't end up in a pit of despair or you will want to break your bones. Your top will crack. Your brain will explode. And your mood will go down the drain. So stay away from the evil, rotten pit of despair!

Ghostly Business

You have a ghost in your closet, what do you do?

Do you exterminate it or let it be? It’s up to you…

You decide to call the exterminator but they think that you’re absolutely insane and hang up the phone…

You open the closet and you remember you were hiding your past from your parents in a white blanket, but what was that noise?

It was your heart crying… Unknown to your knowledge, the strange, eerie sound is audible

You are grief-stricken by your own tears of sorrow because you have never seen anything like this, yet you are shocked to confront your past…

You see a vision of your saint of a boyfriend and explain to him that you, this super strong woman, feel torn and like an unwanted toy who was just thrown away

You have been abused on a constant basis and are lost for words, but still remain whole

You are all alone and the doorbell rings

You sprint down the stairs and feel like your face smacked into the ground like a piano being dropped from a 100-story building, but somehow managed to not clumsily fall

“Who’s at the door?” She said with a frightened look on her face

It was just your best friend banging on your door, yelping for help. He needs you. He yearns for you. He…

He had never been so depressed in his life. Ever since his dad was in the hospital with cancer, he began feeling quite unusual; his self-esteem fled out the door, he consistently brought unnecessary anger upon himself, and he almost came face to face with Death…

You slowly answer the door and wonder who or what you’re going to see

He looked like he had cried for ages on his bed and wanted to give his best friend a strangling hug

It’s the same man you saw in your vision, but you wonder why it isn’t the ghost knocking…

Did you anihhilate the ghost already?

He sounds like he’s screaming at the top of his lungs like he’s going to die. He grabs you with the brute strength of his 5 foot 11 football player, muscular body and pulls you close to his heart for safety

He ran into the closet in your room, grabbed his notebook, flashlight, and lucky pencil he received for winning a football game in order for his team to go to state. He turned off all the lights, locked the door in your room, went into the closet, and began writing a poem that goes something like this:

“What could have caused this traumatizing moment? As my reflections project into images of reality inside my head, they cause fear, insecurity, and excruciating, internal pain. I count down the days until I can return to my happy place, when my head is empty and my heart is satisfied…”

He hears a knock on the door and assumes it’s the ghost and begins to scream again

You sweetly answer to him to his reassurance and he opens the door, lets you in, and locks it again

You close the door, talk for hours, confront your worst nightmares, and fall asleep next to each other, with him holding you close to his heart

The next day, everything returns to normal, and the ghost had left the premesis. You both have no idea what happened and only realized you were asleep next to each other. You both realize that it was only ghostly business, and reality returned to normal…

Happiness is Optimistic

There are some moments where you see people skipping merrily down the street with an expression that says “my life is absolutely perfect”. And you are like “I wish I could be like that person”.

But you can be that happy person skipping down the street, right?

You can decide to be an optimist. But that doesn’t always help. You refuse to be a pessimist, no matter how frustrated and upset you are. You randomly decide to pick a music album that describes your life, with one of the songs saying, “I’m lovin, but I’m feelin like shit”. Just mixed feelings, that’s all…

Looking through the depths of your mind you try to envision where you’d be if you decided to follow a different path instead. While you debate about whether or not you made the right choices, you realize you are seemingly happy at the moment, but why not completely content. What’s missing?

After a long semester at school you come home and feel like you are basically holding friend auditions and cutting most of them. The days of being a doormat and someone to pour your trash on and someone to scapegoat for everything are now over. You’re just asking for respect and to be treated as a human being. Is that so hard to ask for?

While creeping on facebook you see these pictures of where you were that you are not in. You wish you could find somewhere to fit into these pictures, but it’s like there’s no room at the lunch table. That’s really happened when they clearly could have moved over and made some room. And then you begin to feel like you’ve been exiled from the group… Yes, it hurts! oh so bad!

Then the next day they’re gone and you ask where they went. Claiming they had homework to do and went to the library, someone tells you they went out to lunch after you clearly asked them the previous day if they wanted to go. Just do society a favor and quit making your fake excuses every single time. And quit trying to be promising when you are clearly aware there’s no hope. They eventually catch on. Just be honest, and if you really don’t want to then just tell me and then you can completely ignore me forever you morons. Life goes on; quit being shallow bastards. Lying is not a virtue… And neither is pulling that excuse card out of your rear end…

People ask why you put your emotions on paper and you reply that you feel like you can’t trust anyone and need some way to express yourself. Well, if people weren’t to busy being pretty little liars, these trust issues wouldn’t exist. Don’t hold your tears in there’s someone to give them to…somewhere… Venting is oh so necessary. After holding it in for almost six months, you’re ready to just throw those bottled emotions somewhere… *sends a text to your friends* They claim to be busy or unresponsive… what the hell?!? Everything’s blocking my breathing mechanisms. I NEED TO RELEASE EVERYTHING. Come on now, please don’t ignore me… who will listen to me? I am bound to break sometime soon. Hopefully it will be under my control!!

Love isn’t the easiest thing to find these days. It’s like finding Waldo in that silly children’s book. If you’re too impatient and decide to cave on the first person that shows feelings, then it will bite you, time and time again. Supposedly, there’s thing, you know, called patience. If you have it, may success soon be with you.

If you feel like your only purpose in life is to please other people, then think something else. If you feel like you absolutely have to please other people and you have to put every ounce of effort into it, then they aren’t worth your time. If they tell you that you aren’t good enough, then they can go rot... No one ever deserves to stand for that. If someone is your real friend, then it should be effortless…

People may think drugs are their only way to get by in life. Well, that is SO untrue. Even if your best friend does it, you don’t have to. If it gets to be out of hand, what do you do? Confront them? They don’t listen to you. Now what? Get them help? Stop talking to them until decide to change, which they probably won’t… Because all drugs will do is hinder your true potential in life.

If you ever, ever, ever question the faithfulness of someone, well, come on now. If someone lies to you, it may cause you to have severe trust issues. But trust doesn’t come on a silver platter. Even someone throwing the excuse card constantly can cause issues because it shows how unreliable they are. If you ever get cheated on, that just screws everything up. But what if they do decide to come through?? They just need to prove themselves. And if they fail, then sayonara! Hopefully your family will never let you down…

Playing a useless game and being lazy isn’t always the best way to go. Breaks are necessary after a stressful day or whatnot. But if all you do is sit on your rear end, then you’re going to go nowhere. It always feels like there is something to do. If only there was more time to do things and sleep was less necessary. Then everything could be accomplished!!

Time is of the essence… a basic phrase you often hear. If only there was time to get 10 hours of sleep per day, study, practice, have a social life, work, go to class, do extra activities… you know. Even an extra 6 hours in the day, that would make a huge difference. Who likes getting up at 4am to go to work, or at 6am to get ready and eat breakfast before your 8am class? That’s too early. We gotta do what we gotta do. But people are becoming more and more ill due to exhaustion and stress.

Not like how you look?? But food is sooooo good! Your eating habits are a big part of your weight. Stress, sleep, and exercise are also very important. You also need to have time to do all of these things so you can manage yourself, your sanity, and your body. If you only eat everything that tastes good, such as fast food, you will turn into a whale. If you balance your diet and eat meals with lots of fruits and vegetables in them and natural ingredients and work out a couple days a week, sticking to that will show some major results…

Feel like you screwed up somewhere? Second chances usually aren’t given, but can sometimes be given out way too easily. Don’t take ANYTHING from other people, but don’t explode to anyone, or it will be thrown right back in your face. All you can do is try your best and not get so hung up over everything. Being paranoid will only kill you in the end…

Think your only purpose in life is to make people look bad to make yourself happy, including your own family members?? In that case, you’re a complete jerk. But it also shows you are very insecure and have a low self esteem and try to lower someone’s who is either very high or very low. Haters are haters and won't be part of my life. If you want to be a complete douche, gtfo and go somewhere else. Hope you get screwed even more so you can see how it feels. No one deserves to be treated without the utmost respect…

Tired of people pissing you off? Well it’s time to stand up for yourself. Independence is always nice though. You want to be a people pleaser, but that’s not the most important thing, because the entire world won’t like you. However, if those certain people who you haven’t pleased decide to treat you poorly, as well as those on your side… well don’t just stand there. Do something!!!! Don’t tell them to gtfo or start cursing at them, but be the bigger person and nicely confront them and tell them what they’re doing hurts you. If you don’t, then no one will take you seriously…

Quit worrying, dude! You gotta have some confidence! You probably didn’t mess up, no matter how much you think you did. The world is not out to get you, unless of course you’re Osama Bin Laden or some terrorist. Take a load off my dear. Don’t be so paranoid. Getting hung up on something small is so silly, but it happens so often. Just chill, breathe. It will be fine!

Making decisions is one of the toughest things to do, whether it’s to study, go out, or give up on people you think are douchebags and treat you like garbage. It can change your path forever. That may put a lot of pressure on you. But a few years down the road, realizing that you were strong enough to make that difficult choice, you won’t have any regrets…

To sum it up, the world is no perfect place to live. So many people have given up just because of one bump in the road. If you feel like you are that person with so many that it’s too hard to handle, never give up. It may be one of the most cliché phrases out there, but yet it’s so powerful. If you get treated poorly, take matters into your own hands. Don’t just let it happen or you’ll feel hurt and be shoved into a hole that it will take forever to crawl out of. Don’t ever think you need drugs to survive, because whether you think everyone hates you, there are a few people who have taken their actions out of control and you are just so frustrated you feel like you have nowhere to turn to anymore, the effects are irreversible. If people exile you from their little clique, screw them. You’ll soon find somewhere you belong. You may encounter people who lie, but not every word you hear is a lie. No matter what, somewhere you may have not located yet, there are people out there who love you to death who will give you all the respect you deserve. Whether you realize it or not, there are; those are the people you can put all your trust in and they will allow you to hold onto it forever. You never have to be paranoid about that. Don’t ever feel useless, because no one is. You are the one who can provide something special to this world, no matter how long it takes. You will find time to do it. If you attack the world with confidence and stay strong no matter what, then you will be that happy person skipping down the street.