Redo...redo...redo!!!!!
Nope nothing...
Too bad life doesn't have a restart button or item to use to take a moment over again...
But that's ok, that's what starting over is for, right?
There are 5 major reasons why starting over to make new friends is beneficial:
1. You're making a major life transition and don't have time or the desire to keep everyone in your life
Maybe you've just graduated from college or have just begun your career, but time is generally scarce. When you get older and work full time, it's more scarce. When you hit that point, you have to determine who's a friend and who's an acquaintance. With that, you also need to figure out who's "actually" a friend and who isn't. You may end up learning a lot about your friend circles as soon as you begin truly evaluating. They may not be who you think they are...
2. You've been hanging with a bunch of good for nothings aka "the wrong people" and you're tired of getting treated like crap all the time and have finally decided to put your foot down
You realize the true colors of your so-called "friends" and have decided that it's time to part ways with them... though you do so civilly, of course! If you don't fully decide to leave, you share how you've been feeling lately and tell them that what they've been doing is uncalled for and they better stop. If that doesn't work, you stop putting up with their actions and leave! It may be difficult, but necessary if you want to be in a better environment! Respect must also come from all parties... not just you!
3. You're moving away (per your own choice) because you're tired of how things are going or you've found an opportunity to better suit your needs and career
That one time when your "friend" asks to share an apartment with you. You're super excited about it until the major epiphany hits. This epiphany wakes your ass up to realize that you're going to get stuck paying ALL of the rent and your rear end is going to get ripped off hard. NO THANKS! Unfortunately, every time you hang out with these people, you get stuck pulling out your wallet and end up staying out until 3am while you're the only one who has work at 9 in the morning. The majority of the group either works very little or not at all. People don't always care that you're the only one who has "real adult responsibilities" to take care of while everyone else is acting like a child. Not only that, but if you found your dream job in LA and your friends all live in Chicago, chances are that you're going to have a decent number of goodbyes to say. In the end, you will be much happier, as difficult as saying goodbye is!
4. You've moved on because you know you're better than that and deserve better people in your life
After you realize how much your wallet is crying, how much your heart is crying from being screwed over so many times, and even when your real friends who have been helping you tell you to stop hanging out with these people, you eventually have your own personal wakeup call and you end up deciding to vanish from that circle of friends... and never looking back. If you're successful and landed a job right out of college making nice money while they can't even land a job at Starbucks, stop wasting your time. You deserve to hang out with people who will go see a movie with you and actually have enough money to pay for it themselves. The only concert with $30 dollar base tickets that should cost over $150 dollars is one where you either make a road trip out of it or decide to splurge or getting front row, pit, or VIP tickets. You don't deserve to be used or drained by people who you call your friends. If you EVER feel that way, it's time to go!
5. All of the above
The person who's the most important in life is you, closely followed by family and friends you hold dear to you. If anyone is ever holding you back, it's time to let them go. It's one of the most difficult things you can willingly choose to do, but sometimes, it just has to be done. Don't waste your time with ignorant fools mooching off of you to hang out with them to fill your boredom void. Find other ways to entertain yourself than hanging out with clowns who use you. You're a PERSON and PEOPLE don't deserve to get used... only things do. Now go out there and make the best for yourself while surrounding yourself with people who truly care about you and give you a big hug every time they say goodbye... even if you're going to see them the next day!
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