Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 8, 2020

Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

Dear beautiful universe, 

Why are you always being so hard on yourself?
You want to conquer the world and combat imperfections,
But when something goes wrong, you turn into Freakazoid…

Is absolute perfection possible?
When you try to reach for the stars,
It may take lots of tries;
You will eventually get there if you persevere.

Is the ultimate goal of happiness achievable?
When opportunity and joy meet, it becomes bliss,
But will you let yourself feel your feelings?

Reality may be painful,
But you have to accept faults before you can fly…
Feelings can’t be ignored
Or they will make a vengeful return.

You need to accept perfection not being plausible 
And fight your battles day by day;
The stars will be yours as long as you pursue a higher power each day.
Faith, friendship, and love will help you triumph as long as you believe in them… even if takes 800 tries
You don’t have to beat yourself up over small losses if you can get up afterward;
You will win the game as long as you stay standing and keep fighting!

Love,
Rebs! <3

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

10 Signs You're Adulting Just Fine

The adult world can be a jungle without a map,
But I can tell you 10 reasons why you and I are doing just fine.

1. After graduating from college and taking ownership of my expensive piece of paper,
I thought I landed my dream job right away.
Little did I know, I'd be riding a sinking ship.
At least I found a life boat and a place to work!

2. Some people are connected to their blood family.
My clan is comprised of a chosen few I genuinely love.
I'm blessed to have a family.

3. Everyone wants to feel like they're a part of something.
It could range from a religious organization to a group of nerds who hit each other with foam weapons;
If I can belong to one of the most outlandish groups out there, you can belong somewhere too!

4. I'd rather be single than in a miserable marriage or have an oops baby and ruin my life. It's fun to be able to dance like Beyonce, waving my hands without a ring on my finger, and be proud of it!

5. I sometimes compare myself to others, especially through social media, but no one around me has their black belt. I'm always aware I can always kick some serious ass!

6. I feel like I need a money management 101 class, which was never taught in school,
But at least I can afford to pay my bills on time!

7. Even if you see other people reaching their dreams before you, you are on your own journey and will reach your goals at your own time! Keep your eyes on the prize! You are worthy of success!

8. Sometimes during these mapless adventures, you reach a crossroad. Difficult decisions and sacrifices will have to be made, but it's all for the gold. Realize and accept these necessary choices and believe in your journey!

9. Don't take small things for granted. If you think you're low on your luck, be blessed you have a roof over your head, a place to listen to art, and the health capacity to be here today.

And 10. If you are alive, you are adulting just fine. Just be thankful for this beautiful life!

Sunday, April 20, 2014

6 Ways to Thrive at an Internship or Career Fair

Meeting recruiters in person is being a step ahead of the other candidates who apply cold. You of course need to make sure to prepare an advance for the fair in terms of becoming knowledgeable about the companies you want to talk to, see which companies are attending the fair, and bring lots of patience with you because you know you're going to be waiting in plenty of lines. Make sure you prioritize your time in order to be able to talk to every company that you have on your list. That doesn't mean talk to every single company, but select a handful of companies that you may want to work for and go ahead and talk to them. If you have extra time at the end, feel free to talk to whoever else you want to as well. Don't talk to every single company for no good reason. You need to be somewhat picky in order to get a job you want, but only be selective until you are absolutely desperate to get a job (ex you're running out of time before the internship hiring period ends for all of the companies). Here are 6 steps on how you can thrive at an internship or career fair:

1. You should always treat an internship fair like an in-person interview, except it's usually a precursor to that. Dress to impress (business professional, meaning to wear a suit), give a firm handshake, and you're off with a smile and enthusiasm towards attaining the ultimate job for yourself!

2. Make sure you've done your research about each company that you plan on talking to because you may get asked questions to test whether or not you know anything about the company (ex where their headquarters are). Also, some companies make their applications available online prior to the fair. While you're doing your research, check if the company has their application available. If so, definitely apply prior to talking to them. It will impress the company with your level of interest in the job. Who knows, maybe they'll schedule an interview on the spot! It is possible for that to happen, so be prepared! I have seen it happen and it has happened to me as well!

3. Don't get discouraged if the company decides not to talk to you because your GPA doesn't meet their requirements or if they automatically tell you that you don't meet their qualifications. Still apply online if that happens. You never know. You can blow them away with your technical skills, portfolio, or other outside professional experience that they may have missed when initially glancing over your resume!

4. Be prepared with everything that you could possibly need on hand, such as extra resumes, business cards, pen/paper, a portfolio, and a bag to carry the random trinkets that you're given. Make sure to bring at least 2 resumes per company that you plan on talking to. Also, you should print your resumes on resume paper. Some career centers have some. Otherwise, you can find it at Wal-Mart or something like that. You never know. You may end up wanting to talk to more companies than expected. Bring a portfolio to store your resumes, pen/paper (in case you want to take notes while talking to the company, or right after), your business cards (which you should also bring), and a place to hold the free goodies you're going to get from all of the companies you talk to. They will give you little “knick knacks” such as flash drives, $5 gift cards to somewhere, hats, post it notes, etc. Recruiters will notice those "little things", such as using resume paper and bringing a portfolio and know that you have gone the extra mile in terms of handling yourself professionally! It also shows preparedness!

5. Bring your arsenal of questions. Even if you've talked to that particular company already at another fair, asking questions continues to tell the recruiter how interested you are in the position. Bring 2 or so questions each subsequent time you talk to them. If this is your first time talking to that particular company, bring at least 3.

6. The very most important thing to bring with you to internship fairs is your “30 second commercial”, which takes place right after the initial handshake usually (or right after the recruiter asks you your year, major, what type of internship or job you're looking to apply for, etc. and glances at your resume). When you give your 30 second commercial, you say that you're a (year) majoring in (major). Your goal is to work in your company for (whatever position(s) you plan on applying for). You are involved in (list extracurricular activities). I love to (list hobbies). You are a leader of (something, if you are). You love and are very passionate about what you do. Your greatest strengths are (ex being very flexible). Basically, just emphasizing what you love, your goals, and your strengths in order to best sell yourself. You want to brag, but don't blab. Don't put the recruiter to sleep. Imagine someone who just won't shut up and you are just nodding your head pretending to care. You don't want to end up being in their shoes having someone nonstop blab to you!

So here's how it goes:

When it's your turn to talk to the recruiter, introduce yourself, give a firm handshake, smile, and be ready to sell yourself while being yourself. Just before giving your thirty second handshake, tell the recruiter what position you want to apply for. Next, ask if they would like a copy of your resume (and a business card) and hand it over to them. Afterwards, start the conversation by giving your 30 second commercial or by answering whatever the recruiter asks you (ex the “are you eligible to work” questions and if you know anything about the company). After all of that, since there is a line, the recruiter will ask you if you have any questions; you are ready to ask away. With those questions, try to embark in a good conversation. Whether it's about the company or hobbies you share, try to connect with the recruiter you're taking to. When you're done, ask for a business card and how you can apply (if you haven't already). When you're done, shake their hand, thank the recruiter for their time, and you're off to conquer the rest of the fair!

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Teachings and Lessons from Death

I wrote this post in reaction to my best childhood friend who passed away on May 25, 2013. He was my biggest inspiration and the foundation for the rest of my life. I had never lost anyone close to me and these are my opinions on how one should properly cope with the gravity of a hefty loss...



I know that dying is a part of life, but the true mystery is that you never know when it's going to happen. There are many different ways that people perceive Death, but this is the best way to handle it:

Up until now, during my 22 short years of living, I had never had any real encounters with Death before. I never lost anyone super close to me. I have lost people who lived on my dorm floors and talked to occasionally, had a couple classes with, a couple family members that I wasn't too close with, and even someone in one of my turnabout groups. I even went to a wake for a good friend whose infant son passed away. But never had I lost anyone close to me before. I'd rather learn now than later. It will teach me and provide me with another one of life's experiences.

On May 25, 2013 I lost my childhood best friend who helped me to initially choose my life's path. We got into an argument when I was in high school and things weren't ever the same. I feel like it's a common phenomenon to realize how important someone truly is to you when they're gone. People always have that feeling of "I wish I could have said goodbye" or "I wish I could have told them how I feel" or "I wish I could have rekindled our friendship". Unfortunately, you can't. There are most certainly healthy ways to cope with a heavy loss and optimistic ways to continue to live and love your life.

When someone passes, they may be buried in the ground or have his or her ashes scattered about, but the spirit and legacy will always live on. You can always do something in the person's honor, such as dedicating some kind of personal memorial to them. For example, a school can dedicate a track meet to someone who was active on the track team or the ones who were closest can get a personalized tattoo to remember the loved one or very close friend. Most importantly, even though someone "being there in spirit" isn't the same, it is a healthy way to hold the passed person in your heart forever. Saying a prayer isn't a bad idea either. Mourn the passed person and celebrate their life. It will lighten the mood from the waterfall of tears and room full of sadness.

Your family and friends will be there for you. Alcohol and drugs are not the answer. Those will dilute your problem for a short amount of time and eventually cause your life to spiral out of control. If need be, there is always grief counseling available. One thing to also do is write a lovely letter in remembrance about the person and read it at the funeral. Cry your eyes out and call your best friend to console you and you will feel more at ease.

Death is inevitable and is just another part of the life cycle. Although it's the most terrible thing and it's even worse when the person is young, but it happens and you need to move on from it. You will never forget the person and you can always say hello at the cemetery. Just realize that the person is in a better place and although you can never touch or hear them, but you can feel and sense them.  Most importantly, don't dwell on the past. Take your mistakes and lessons and learn from them for the future. If you messed up or did something you shouldn't have to the person, don't regret it. That will make you more miserable later. Just move on and keep living. That's all you can do. Don't get stuck in a black hole. Move forward. The person will always want the best for you and would be happiest if you lived your life to the fullest.

Don't be afraid you're going to die and keep thinking about Death. You should live your life like you're going to die tomorrow and accomplish as much as you can. Life is short, but live on the edge and don't hold back. Don't let fear consume you. Live in the present and don't take things for granted, especially life. Life is the most precious thing one can have. Take advantage of the world. The world is your canvas. Paint as much as you can upon it and people will see it and become your happy followers and driving force. Take on the world with a smile. Happiness and love are driving forces. Display love to everyone, because who knows, they may one day be gone forever and there is nothing you can do. Believe what you want. Do what you want. Fight adversity and don't be afraid to be the odd one. Just enjoy yourself. Be free. It's better to know that you die happy and fulfilled than miserable and empty! Celebrate life always! Treasure the wonderful gift of life and you will be able to continue marching onward from the tragedy and sorrow. That way, it's never game over for you!