Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

Dear beautiful universe, 

Why are you always being so hard on yourself?

You want to conquer the world and combat imperfections,

But when something goes wrong, you turn into Freakazoid…

Is absolute perfection possible?

When you try to reach for the stars,

It may take lots of tries;

You will eventually get there if you persevere.

Is the ultimate goal of happiness achievable?

When opportunity and joy meet, it becomes bliss,

But will you let yourself feel your feelings?

Reality may be painful,

But you have to accept faults before you can fly…

Feelings can’t be ignored

Or they will make a vengeful return.

You need to accept perfection not being plausible 

And fight your battles day by day;

The stars will be yours as long as you pursue a higher power each day.

Faith, friendship, and love will help you triumph as long as you believe in them… even if takes 800 tries

You don’t have to beat yourself up over small losses if you can get up afterward;

You will win the game as long as you stay standing and keep fighting!

Love,

Rebs! <3

From Red to Rainbows

On an adventure into the abyss
My heart is filled with bliss
And you make me feel more full,
Containing a complete sense of purpose.

My first trip in many years
You help me face my fears
Bugging me for oh so long!

Your touch heals me
Along with your warm essence and being a positive energy source.
You help me prove to myself healing is real and real can be beautiful without clouding it!

I have never said thank you more than I have now in my entire life because now I truly understand what it means to be grateful even after I claimed so multiple times…
I have never “good cried” so many times because you assure me I am safe and tell me to be me and let go…
I have never felt this many positive emotions towards someone until you came along!

We met by fate
And kindness brought me closer to you!

You have showed me why I need to continue to be kind
And changed the trajectory of my life forever for the better
As you have showed me the light;
Hell, you are the light!

One of my therapists told me I am worthy of being loved just because…
Because I am worthy
And can trust you with my being.

You are an angel for being patient with me;
You give me the utmost reasons to want to grow better and stronger
And I shall reciprocate the out of this world brightness in your direction.

I am free
Free to be me
After my temporary flee from hell and bullshit.
I am free
Free from my past and can start my brain over again.

You have turned the red into rainbows;
Now my soul can rest easy at night
All thanks to the power of love.

After these adventures I have realized I am worthy of all things positive
And kindness shall prevail!

Positive Haiku Poems

What all can I do
To be embraced by someone?
Be yourself and win!

Bye negativity
Time to rid myself of hell
Before it eats me!

To win the battle
You must hold it together
To prove your own strength

What is family?
It may not be who you think.
Careful who you choose!

Home is in your heart
Not where other people say
Or where bullies are…

You can reach the stars
Sometimes the stars come to you
Only if you try…

Believe in yourself
Even when no one else does
You must still believe!

Love wins over all
Kindness destroys the evil
The real shall prevail!

Lots and Lots of Inspirational Quotes by Rebecca Duxler

All quotes written by yours truly (me)!

Defeat is never an option if you want to reach the sky!

Light even exists in the dark!

This is not the beginning or the end, but the start of a revolution!

Even shooting stars have jagged pathways...

When you travel over rugged roads wondering if you're going to make it through in one piece, you do and realize rugged roads don't last forever!

Sometimes, you don't have to look any farther than in front of you... 

You can always find rainbows among the immense darkness; it is possible to see light through terrible tragedy

Sometimes, all it takes is telling yourself you'll be just fine because all it takes is time

How to upset the nicest person in the world: call their friends stupid

Your heart will tell you the proper path to pick. You may look behind with wonder, but realize the light and freedom are ahead

The light may be on the other side, but it's still right in front of you

Lights illuminate the seemingly dark great beyond. Something is always shining

Sticks and stones may break your bones, words may break your soul, but the only way to win the fight is to take a stand and keep standing

Let go of bitterness in order to find forgiveness

When one door closes, another one opens. A new beginning is near. Go make it feel dear without fear!

If being scared isn't a positive driving force, you're in the wrong place; if fear is your driving force, you're also in the wrong place. Listen to your heart; your animalistic instincts never lie!

Listen to your heart. Your heart is your guide; it never lies!

Today I will vow to make love the wealthiest of all my entities, because without love, meaning ceases to exist while money and power are worthless. The heart needs to be my central core at all costs!

Shoot for the stars, even when you feel like you’re falling…

Failure represents the strengths in finding your way to the goal line!

A smile can fly for miles!

There is always light to be emerged from any darkness!

Inspire, persevere, triumph, impact the world!

If you are alive and take up space, you matter!

Smiles are contagious. Surround yourself with people to rise high with you!

It’s time to aim higher than the sun and shine today!

Knowledge is beauty. If you utilize it right, you’ll meet your people!

Sharing is caring; celebrating is more fun in crowds than alone

Transform every day, living life to the fullest, seeking growth and love

Don’t look for the light, let the light find you!

Today is always one step forward for being alive!

Today’s failure is tomorrow’s success!

It is not your job to please everyone. Even if you make an unpopular decision, as long as the decision is yours, it makes you happy, and stands by your moralized code of ethics, don’t let other’s disapproval cloud your vision!

Those who enable you to feel safe will destroy your walls!

As long as the sinking ship has a battery, it is possible to overcome the fear and push the accelerator button!

Rain from your eyes is like a storm revitalizing a city in deep drought! Dismissing that will only create an endless dark cloud needing water to restore its glow!

The finish line is the light at the end of the tunnel. Chase after it like you’re running away from a charging bull!

No matter how selfless of a person you are, in order to take care of others with your full heart, you must take care of yourself first!

If you wake up in the morning and tell yourself you’re going to win the race, your attitude shall dictate your actions!

Shield your loved ones with your heart, because you never know when you’re going to need a hand in return…

When you look into the distance and see your goals in the sky, don’t let them fly by; instead, go jump high and let yourself celebrate with pie!

A black belt is only the beginning of your journey; you are ready for the world to be bestowed upon you!

Now, it's time to grow into the person you want to be; you can do it!

If you think your life is worse than others, be thankful to be alive, able to write this message, and hardships are bestowed upon you because you can handle them!

A visionary is one who has dreams and follows them with actions!

Fly forward freely

Wake up and smell the beauty in the world

Life is like water; let it flow!

If you’re stuck in one place and know your heart is elsewhere, keep your head in the game and strategically plan your next move. Patience and perseverance are power!

They told themselves they can, and they did. They climbed up walls; they fell down some, fell again, and again, and got back up. They said to themselves they are somebody, and they shine past the sky’s gates, leaving a star in the sky to represent an imprint of light in the world!

If you want to feast in life’s delights, it’s about time you take life’s plights and plunge into the sea of awakening!

If you want to make a difference, don’t wait for someone else to tell you what you can or can’t do. The world is much larger than an enclosed space, especially if you have technology in your hands. Even if you can’t physically show your face, your heart can be seen from miles away!

I knew there was a voice trapped inside me for all these years, and validated myself when I let it out! Your voice comes from your heart; let its spirit guide you!

Let your friends be your rocks and take their hands, because life is not meant to be a solo journey when joys can be shared!

The purpose for the journey isn't solely to emerge victorious; the experiences which create wisdom to power the journey are the purpose for adventure!

Realize what those who are fighting the war are sacrificing. Be thankful you don't have to ask the skies to take a breath of fresh air after a fatal wound and praise those who cross the line who enable you to celebrate life!

When struggling to smile, do a good deed for someone or convince them they have more potential than they ever imagined. Smiles and love are contagious; sharing both will direct the cycle in your direction when you need it most!

Use love for helping or healing; you can maybe save someone's life!

Use love for helping or healing; you can maybe save someone's life!

Imagine how much one day can impact the world. If you had one day to change the world, what would you do, start a revolution towards the sun or down into the fire? But never forget those days where brave souls extinguished the fire…

Let yourself get in touch with the current moment, because every second is an experience you shall embrace!

Shield your loved ones with your heart, because you never know when you’re going to need a hand in return…

When you look into the distance and see your goals in the sky, don’t let them fly by; instead, go jump high and let yourself celebrate with pie!

Let yourself know the finish line exists; if you believe in the checkered flag, your destination will appear as a result of your resilience!

Power through your mental blockades as if you were trudging through quicksand about to fall.

Those who enable you to feel safe will destroy your walls!

As long as the sinking ship has a battery, it is possible to overcome the fear and push the accelerator button!

Rain from your eyes is like a storm revitalizing a city in deep drought! Dismissing that will only create an endless dark cloud needing water to restore its glow!

If you create positivity within you, the cycle will return it in your direction!

There is always someone out there willing to take your hand!

Take advantage of the moments when you can embrace the positive auras of your surroundings!

Fear is your driver, not your shield. Let the fuel ignite the fire instead of dissipate it, no matter how large you want it to be!

Challenge yourself to create goals higher than you think you can achieve in order to reach higher mountains!

Rejection only means the opportunity wasn't right for you and not a pitfall to your doom!

To summon the upper vibes, you must embrace them and the desire to be happy!

Life's losing streaks aren't permanent because when the rabbit goes down the hole, the only way it can climb is up. With several losses in a row, will plus resilience results in a win!

Black Friday the 13th: Breathe in the Sun

Here's a poem too... which I wrote before I found out about any of this Paris tragedy stuff... called "Black Friday the 13th: Breathe in the Sun" - but my thoughts and prayers are with everyone in Paris. Stand strong!

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Walking down the Chicago South Loop sidewalks
As the blistering wind sucks my face dry of warmth,
I look at the sky, seeing the sun has still risen.

Do you know how many people would kill to greet the sun outside every day?

Imagine being stuck in a hospital bed indefinitely,
Struggling at lifting your head while constantly being shuttled around with by screaming sirens all the time;

Instead of telling everyone about your life story
About the mom or hard worker or amazing chef you are,
You’re telling them about the list of illnesses you have.

Imagine being stripped of your character,
Like those people who get beaten to the ground by cops
Just for blowing a red light
And not being the color of society.
It seems like anything other than plain white
Is always scrutinized,

Though adversity is what sparks the fight!

Today is Friday the 13th
And I sometimes think I’m unlucky.
I tried buying concert tickets for my favorite band,
Failed for the fourth time in a row, and ended up paying 3x the price to not wait several more years.
I should be thankful I could even afford this astounding experience.

My life may not be perfect,
I haven’t completely figured out what I want to do for the rest of my life,
But meanwhile, I’m still trying to fully comprehend what “adulting” is,
Because college never taught me about not making my wallet cry or about cheap, healthy gourmet 101.

I have the privilege of living an apartment of my own,
Buzzing with a zoo of love, 2 kitties, 2 ferrets, and 2 of the only people I can hand my sand grains of trust to.
I’m in a safe space with my biggest issues being what I want to do for my career,
But some people can’t even find a place to sleep at night.

It’s getting cold outside,
Which means holiday season is near.
Not everyone has a family or a place to go for Thanksgiving;
Some people even have to work,
Or be forever away being real life superheroes overseas in a war zone.
But here we are,
Painting humanity with hate,
Using toys as weapons instead of play,
And spending time complaining about lame Starbucks cup designs,
When we could be figuring out a way to fight veteran homelessness on Veteran’s day.

Why do we spend our time complaining instead of taking action?

With all of life’s commitments tying us down,
Why would people commit themselves to destroying what is divine while promoting the art of dying?

I’m thankful to be able to get up out of my bed by myself and contribute to the world,
Some people are pinned to the confines of outside or cement boxes;
In another world, my dear friend and I can walk around the Lincoln Park Zoo at 5am seeing stars through human pollution.

As I’m walking down the Chicago South Loop sidewalks,
The hydrogen and oxygen fill my lungs with bliss
While the sun radiates its love.

Make sure to give yourself a well-deserved break after your adventures,
Because floating free of senses will enable you to holistically thank nature for its smiling skies!
But for now, let’s just be thankful and consider ourselves lucky for this beautiful life!

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Motivation for 11-3-15

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The Positivity Garden

This is the story of what inspired me to want positive people in my life. Enjoy :)

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A few months ago, when my life turned into chaos and I’d come home to my very roomy one bedroom apartment in one of the hip areas in Chicago, I looked sink and realizing how full it is, exclaim, “NOT THE DISHES!” at a month’s worth of dirty dishes. This describes how I feel with dead weight in my life.

When I was in college, during my freshman year in the dorms, someone pointed out to me how I was “friends with everyone”. I saw that as a good thing when I was younger, but I felt like something was missing. I had tons of friends and a very fruitful network, but felt very lonely…

Once I graduated college, since due to proximity issues, it was difficult to maintain friendships, I needed to start over. I was a new person after college and felt confident enough to go out into the world and meet people. Shortly after my return home, I ended up reconnecting with one of my friends from high school named Shawn. He introduced me to his friend group, and I later realized I was hanging out with a toxic group of people who had no motivation to do anything in life except watch TV, party, and not have a job. My relationship with that entire group is dissolved at this point. Shortly after I reconnected with Shawn and friends, I ended up reconnecting with another high school friend, Chris. Chris ended up introducing me to his friend group as well. Of course, these people would end up being toxic for the same reasons and then some; however, I decided not to purge everyone.

I recently had to move out of my one bedroom apartment and realized how much I’ve been hoarding only 2 years into my full adult life, such as papers, notes, clothes, etc. Something memorable one of my ex boyfriends told me was how my true friends will help me move when I need to. Two of my dearest friends, Kyle and Noah, who are now my roommates, were the only two people I decided to maintain relations with after the second group of friends I met after college disbanded. The pair of them and a pair of movers helped siphon through my 800 square feet of clutter, which was all mine, and get it onto a truck which needed to fit 3 people’s belongings… About ¾ of the truck was filled with MY stuff. Whoops! Thanks Noah for your parents helping me to erase or donate a large portion of junk I didn’t need. About a month into living with each other, this is the first time since living in the dorms in college where I can get closer to my roommates instead of having to worry to fight with them. That was nice!

With a more optimistic view towards people, I still wanted a select person to form a spiritual bond with. Not even a romantic relationship, especially because I am still recovering from a somewhat recent breakup. With all of the “best friend” figures I’ve had in my life, I’ve always felt like there’s been a barrier separating me from the relationship I want with the other person. One adventure on the Mystery Machine later, an old green Pace Bus remodeled and painted from his family to represent a parody of the Scooby Doo version as the “Mystery Machine Party Bus”, ended up introducing me to his roommate, Trevor. Both of these two lovely people helped me with assembling my new apartment, which I dearly appreciate. After hanging out with Trevor some more, I feel like I’ve found someone to help me maintain my positivity garden, which is an outlet to spread joy and good vibes to all. Not only that, but this kind of connection with someone is depression’s antidote. Life’s too short to waste your time with toxic people. Hold onto those who want to create and foster love with you. Who do you want in your life?